Obviously, different cities (or towns) offer their own good or bad aspects. Smaller cities such as St. Louis or Orlando more often offer gentlemen with an old fashion way of "taking care of their lady" with those small signs of appreciation we all adore. The guys are also more inclined to commit to you (even if you are not) and they definitely feel obligated to settle down with " a nice girl" at a much earlier point in life than a guy you'd find in say, Miami or Manhattan. This is definitely just a cultural difference as to be single and never married or had children by the age of 35-40 in smaller markets is almost associated with a sort of stigma whereas its the norm here in the NYC.
During my time spent in Miami, I was young and wild. I didnt put much thought into my dating life because frankly, I wanted no part of being in a committed relationship and wasn't exactly dating material at the time either. However, it was blatantly obvious that the Miami dating market is heavily driven by superficial BS. The men knew that in order to date a beautiful, young girl anywhere near South Beach, you needed to have an oceanfront stunner, a luxury car, and lots of flash. There were just too many other douches (well most of them) that could lull the girls in with this, that frequently (and sadly) it was a "no money, no honey" situation.
In Long Island and STL, I witnessed that when friends (I was in a long-termer in LI) would meet someone they had a decent amount of things in common with, they saw more of each other and more often and it lasted longer than Ive witnessed here in Manhattan. Why? Because in these smaller dating markets, people have limited things they like to do (go to eat at a well known local restaurant), drive to each others house and hang out and drive home when they are ready (somehow this seems more convenient than hailing a cab or taking the subway in the wee hours of the morning to change before work) and honestly, they just have less options and are more content with whats currently if front of them.
In Manhattan, on the other hand, life moves at you quickly. You must swiftly analyze what each guy you date is looking for- a fling to entertain him until something better rolls along, a relationship, a wife, sexual fulfiller? A rapid judgement is imperative. If you decide to play the "aloof" game to someone who wants something more serious, he'll judge you for not being "into it" enough. If you let him know you're into it and he's not looking for anything more than a time filler, well, thats done. If you both are looking for the same thing- perfect. But no two people would or should have that conversation within the first weeks of knowing each other. And the best and worst part? Manhattan offers so much, its too much; in regards to its human stock. Most cant handle it. There will always be some sort of distraction- someone wealthier, better looking, smarter, more beautiful, thinner, taller etc. Im happy Im presented with such a broad collection, but the thought of eternal dating is horrifying.
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